TO A WOMAN


Is God fair to women?

God created man in His own image; male and female He created them.

In the order of creation we find that Eve was created after Adam was. This was because God wanted Adam to feel the need for her and treat her as special, with due regard, and not as men started treating women later on in life as the days went by, largely as sex symbols. It is quite repulsive to find men treating women as if it is only for sex that women exist, to fulfill their lusts. Love involves so much more than just sex even though sex is a very good part of it. Women are treated like heart-less beings and merely as sex objects. It ought to be more than the union of two bodies: it ought to be a union of two minds. Why else do we feel the need for each other?

It is a beautiful feeling to know that at the end of the day when we return home, we will find ourselves eagerly expecting each other. What can be of greater comfort than this that a person can be relied upon not because he says it before sex but because there is a sharing of ideas though they may be at times quite different. That is the very essence of life, isn’t it, the way we find warmth and are stimulated towards each other. We need to have slightly different ideas on some issues so that we can complement and appreciate each other. Every individual is unique and we cannot expect every person to be a photocopy of each other, though in a family, qualities can rub on each other.

It is the uniqueness that is the beauty of creation that I can look at you and appreciate you, look on at you and love you, not because you look just like me or because we diverge on some point or the other. Between two people it is an endless process of discovering the other – we may call the other, one’s other self, once we start coming together on a common uniting platform of crucial interests and then it is a process of continuous exploration and delighting in each other’s company.

As we find Jesus Himself when He walked on earth, He gave women due regard and prevented harassment. God’s laws haven’t been applied correctly through the ages, in the right spirit. Jesus Himself had to come down to the earth to teach men the law, because men had perverted the law from being good to serving their needs and fancy, like the 39 melachots, for instance. Much of what we find in religion today is far from being what God intended it to be. Much of religion is man-made rather than God-ordained. What God intended for mankind is found in Romans 8:16, 17 where we find that we are the children of God -- heirs of God and joint-heirs with Christ.

There is no separate dispensation for the man and the woman. Both were made in His likeness. The most important quality of love emanates from God and when we love each other, this quality comes to the fore. The question that I ought to raise is ,”Can I love you the same way that God loves His children?” or is my love for you merely a sham and an expression in words. Is it just expressions of love or really a beating of the heart for each other? Can I stand by you no matter what and be of comfort and solace? And can we reciprocate this kind of love which is indeed a very rare thing. This kind of love has become a rarity unfortunately. But because it is rare, is it non-existent?

Can we prove this kind of love in our lives? Both the man and the woman have equal responsibilities in a family and both need to pursue their goals helping each other and sharing with each other. A man and a woman need each other to lead fulfilling lives. We need to find ourselves in each other, because we were made so.

God gives people to each other as treasure, but some only look like it. If I have seen something deep in you and I appreciate it a lot, then you have become very special to me. As the saying goes, “who finds a friend finds treasure.” I would thank God for this treasure I find in you. As we go through the vicissitudes of life, we stay for each other whenever we need each other for comfort and for sharing and sustain each other by that common bond that was put in us by which we were drawn to each other and have stayed all the while relishing the warmth that emanates from each.

God is fair. We need to clear up the mess that man has made.